Monday, March 22, 2010
It's a Mess...
I am slowly learning that my girls do not care one way or another what our house looks like. I mean, obviously, it has to be sanitary. One of the best pieces of advice I have gotten lately was from a woman whose children are a little older than mine. She said, "I want my children to remember a home, not a house." When I sit back and think, my kids love to be home and our house is "lived in." I have felt so out of control in my mind that keeping my house in perfect order makes me feel like I have some control. By doing this, I am extremely grumpy and irritable. Not only am I worn out physically, but emotionally and mentally too. Every child would rather have a happy mom than a spic and span home. So bring on the mess!!!!
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This is sooo true, Krista!! I struggle with this but on the opposite end! Jesse wants our house spic and span; I on the other hand don't mind the toys or some mess! This is a constant battle at our house! A clean house is wonderful, but I would rather spend as much time with my kids as possible and do fun things. Cleaning will always be there, but our children get older and these memories we will never get back!! I hope you learn to enjoy the memories. One day you will look back at pictures and see your house in the background and say.."Wow..The house might have been a mess, but the fun times we had together were the best ever!" Your girls will love you no matter what!! Keep your head up!! There is a way to be 'super' mom without letting it get in the way of your happiess. I hope one day you find this happy-medium! I love reading your blogs and being able to relate to another mother! it reminds me of why us mothers do what we do!! It is the reward at the end of the day!! -family and our happiness!
ReplyDeleteOh Krista, this is sooo me....I too am a perfectionist and have found your blog very interesting yet similar to my lifestyle. It's nice to know and find comfort in knowing that others have the same tendencies that I have. I too worry about my house but then often catch myself thinking...."just go play with your daughter....she will one day appreciate it" as will your kids. COngrats on finding yourself and having the strength to share with others! Such a HUGE accomplishment!
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